I personally haven’t met an owner who didn’t love their dog. If love was all you need, no one would have issues with their dog.
This quote is one I find myself repeating most frequently to rescue adopters because it’s the most frequent mistake I see people make with rescues.
Many feel sorry for their newly adopted dog based on the dog’s history or background before rescue. They want to show the dog an abundance of kindness and comfort in their new life.
But by doing so, many enforce no structure, rules or boundaries for the dog because it makes them feel bad.
So these dogs, many of which are nervous and seeking guidance, are left to their own devices with no understanding of what is expected of them and no incentive to form a bond with their humans based on guidance and respect.
Having clear rules and consistent expectations for your dog from day one is the best thing you can do for them. Not only does this allow your dog to develop manners so everyone can enjoy their company, but this helps alleviate anxiety and build confidence for dogs who desperately need guidance.
Your dog isn’t living in the past or feeling sorry for themselves. You don’t need to either.
If you love your dog, give them structure.
